Don’t have a Valentine?
Y’all, it’s okay.
In my opinion, Valentine’s Day is a great holiday. Maybe that’s because I’m easily distracted by the color pink and shiny things, but who knows? When you think about it, some of the best chick flicks come out around Valentine’s Day, all the stores start selling the cutest little decorations and gifts, and don’t even get me started on the chocolate – even if you’re a Valentine’s hater, you can’t say your mouth doesn’t water when you see that huge display of Ghirardelli while you’re walking through Target! What’s not to love about that? Also, the Target dollar section is an unavoidable money-trap I find myself falling into countlessly around this time of year! With all the glittery mason jars, heart shaped sticky notes, and Valentine’s Day trinkets, I can’t resist.
However, not everyone feels this optimistically about this holiday and all that it ensues. As soon as February starts to approach, I continuously see girls all over social media complaining about how they don’t have Valentine, how they’re so sick of couples and all of the adorable things that they do on Valentine’s Day, how they scroll right past all of the cutesy pictures of kissing and hugging on Instagram because it’s just so depressing, blah blah blah.
I think that’s being a little hateful, couldn’t you agree?
Valentine’s Day is the day in which love is celebrated, and last I checked, love is not limited to romantic relationships. Love is love between family, love between friends – love is so much more than simply having a significant other. So why are we conditioned in such an advanced day and age to feel such strong negativity over a joyful holiday simply because we don’t have someone to take us out to dinner or to buy us flowers? Since when do we need a guy to make us feel like we’re special or appreciated? And WHY do we let ourselves fall into this bottomless pit of negativity and disappointment just because we happen to be single on this random day of February 14th? There is something wrong with that.
Because of all of this, it has occurred to me that, for a lot of young women, being in love is the trendy thing to do. “Being in love”, I should sarcastically quote, is what is expected, because it is the only way to not feel lonely. Does that sound right to you?
Our culture has communicated to us that being in love is the only way to find happiness. It is the greatest thing we can possibly do with our lives. Being in love makes all of the other bad things go away. This is the lie that so many of us cling to. This is the lie that causes people to enter relationships simply because they feel like they have to in order to feel whole. This is the lie that hurts feelings, plays mind games, and breaks hearts.
Love is not something to be messed with.
The good news in all of this is that, wherever there is a lie, there is also a truth. The truth is, it’s okay to not be in love, it’s okay not to have a relationship, and it’s okay to be on your own. There is nothing wrong with that, because at the end of the day, you are enough. Your self love should be enough. Be happy to be single, independent, and responsible for yourself, and also learn how to be happy for those who have found their true loves. Yours is coming. Find joy in the joy that others feel, but remember to also find joy in yourself, in whatever stage of life you’re in, in whatever situation. If you can find happiness on your own, you can find happiness anywhere.
So this Valentine’s Day, buy yourself some chocolate, push all of that anti-Valentine’s Day fluff to the side, and celebrate whatever love is in your life, including your self love, which is the greatest love of all.
I hope all of you have the sweetest Valentine’s Day yet! If you’re looking for things to do with your girlfriends, check out my Galentine’s Day post here!